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The first thing in learning to do a tantra massage is to be totally present in your touch. In other words, do not focus on trying to turn on your lover or to give her an orgasm.

Most women are very sensitive to where the man's mind is. If she feels he is trying to change her she feels he is in his head and the touch does not feel good at all.

Here are some guidelines

• Be present.
• Be in the sensations under your fingers
• Really enjoy touching your lover
• Slow down your sensual massage stroke
• Start each stroke with sensitivity and also leave the body slowly.

If you do all the above, you will notice your lover will sigh and really relax into her energy.

I like to start the massage with silk, fur and very soft touch. I also blow from the feet up to the head. Blowing on the anus is very sexy too.

Make sure your lover is breathing from her belly and making a sigh on each out breath. This helps the energy build and keeps her in her body.

I spend about  30 to 40 minutes on the body before going to the breasts and genitals.

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I give professional tantra massages near Byron Bay, Australia.